There have certainly been times that are really sad, when I’ve cried. Some of those moments have come from hearing a young person share something deeply painful—something that’s really hard to hear. It’s not easy, but it’s essential—and it’s part of what makes supported lodgings so important.
One of the young people who came to live with me spoke five languages before arriving in the UK, though his English was limited. During his time with me, he completed his English for Speakers of Other Languages (ESOL) course and began studying barbering. I had a feeling he had more to offer, and sure enough, he later chose to pursue A-levels and apply to university. I supported him through the process of learning to write essays, and over time, he became increasingly independent in his studies.
I’ve supported young people through significant mental health challenges, including suicidal thoughts. I completed suicide prevention training, which helped me assess situations and provide appropriate support during crisis moments. I’ve encouraged young people to access counselling, even when they were hesitant, and helped them understand the value of professional help. While I’m not a mental health expert, I can offer reassurance and say, “This person is really skilled and professional in it.”
I’ve also advocated for young people in education settings where they weren’t being treated fairly, and I’ve stood by them during immigration appeals. I’ve cried with relief when residency was granted. I’ve had difficult conversations about safety, boundaries, and respect, and I’ve helped them navigate cultural differences, including views on relationships and identity.
Supported lodgings gives young people agency. They meet the carer and see the home before moving in, which means they have a say in the decision. That’s powerful. It means they’re choosing to stay because they feel secure and recognise the support they’re receiving.
Some young people who’ve moved out still come back to visit. One is now living independently and has a university place for September. I’m incredibly proud of him. I’m equally proud of a young person living with me and this leading to improved mental health, him having food in his cupboard, and that he came home at a sensible time last night!
It’s about focusing on what truly matters. Is it essential that they’re great at budgeting? Not necessarily. Is it vital that they have somewhere safe to live when they turn 21? Absolutely. I push on the things that matter most. I often say, “I’m not doing this because I’m a horrible old woman (I’m in my early 50’s but I appreciate to the young people that’s old). I’m doing this because I care about you.”
Amazing people should consider becoming supported lodgings carers. There are many young people out there who need a safe place to live, somewhere they can grow, develop independence, and feel supported. Supported lodgings is incredible. It’s something I absolutely love.
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